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I am what I am

It’s been 3 months since my mum passed away, I’m still working on ways to cope, ways to accept that I’ll never see her in this world again, and seeing the sadness in my dad when we visit.

I’ve had a few days of being gentle with myself as we passed that first quarter of a year, remembering how much I have to be grateful for from her, and enjoying having lots of practical work time while I meditated and reflected.

There’s a big part of me just wants to curl up in a ball right now, but of course I can’t do that. I have a business, a home, children of my own who need me present. So my crochet, knitting, reading and some binge watching, as well as taking some time to be with my girls too have been foremost in my week.

When you lose a loved one, a close loved one, your world changes. It isn’t always negative changes though. Aside from these few days, every so often, where I need to remember my loss, I have spent the last 3 month’s reflecting on all the things my mum showed me in life, good and bad parts from our past, that have brought me to where I am now.

I have learned to take the best parts of her, her life, her history and grow on from them.

Next week I’ll be back to full on business head and organised mum role. For now I’m remembering my own mum, her determination to look after her family before all things, to see us as more important than any one else, and to work hard to give us the best she could 💜

It wasn’t always roses, but it was always love!

Much love to you all

Davina

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My Biggest Why

It’s been a hard 2 weeks here at Indigosky2Knit HQ. A little over 2 weeks ago my mum was taken to hospital after several days of not being able to eat properly, not keeping what she did eat down, and slowly getting more and more withdrawn.

After a week in hospital we got the news that she has a tumour in her stomach with spreading to her liver. This news at the age of 81,mum with progressive dementia too, leaves treatment options in question. While we have been waiting to hear what the doctors have discussed about her family and friends have been trying to come to terms with the information.

As I’ve previously discussed my relationship with my mum has had it’s ups and downs, but she taught me many things that make me the woman and mum I am today, and much of how she was as a strong woman have brought me to my choices with my own life, knowing my own mind, wanting to stay home with my children, and doing what I know in my heart is right.

I know she would have chosen to home educate my sisters and myself had she known back in the 1960’s and 70’s that she could. She I know she was proud with the way I chose to set girlsmy own business and not leave my children to go out and work, she’d done the same. I do wish she could grasp now the work I am trying to do to build my business to be better and give opportunities, better than the ones I had, to my own girls.

I know that whatever happens now here spirit will continue to watch over me, be with me and my memories of her, despite the hard ones, will keep me as the strong woman I am, determined to give my Biggest Why’s the life they deserve <3

Much love to you all

Davina

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Charging what you’re worth

So I thought it was time I wrote a little bit on the subject of pricing and hand knitted or crocheted items. This is something that over the years since I began Indigosky2knit in 2012 I have become more and more passionate about.

Imagine this: you are wanting to begin a business venture, you want to use that venture to support your family, to pay bills, feed your children the best food, make the best choices for education, and maybe have a little left to put aside for some fun. You have skills and want to use those skills to earn said money to support your family. Those skills are time intensive, they create beautiful and often unique items, those items last many years because you choose the best kind of materials.

When you are starting your business well meaning individuals, some of whom do the same crafts, and some who sell their own products, tell you that ‘you’ll never make an hourly wage doing that’, ‘people won’t pay you more than a couple of pound an hour for the time it takes’, ‘it can’t be your only source of income’, etc. They don’t mean any harm, they think they’re helping. But are they?

Do you know how long it takes to knit a baby hat, even for a skilled and fast knitter? Do you know how long an age 2-3 cardigan takes to knit? Do you know how long it takes to crochet some baby booties, or an adult unicorn hat? I expect your guess is out by an hour or two for small things, or many hours for larger items.

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Say it take 6 hours to make a toddler cardigan, age 12-24 months (and that’s for a simple cardigan with no seams and a few buttons added, made by a speedy knitter)? How much do you think a person’s time is worth for doing that? £3/hour? £5/hour? Or are they worth more than the UK minimum wage, which currently stands at £7.83? Factor into that the cost of materials, the extra time to choose a yarn, to market the item if it’s to be listed on a website and needs some form of advertising, and is it really too much to ask for £10/hour that it took to make the cardigan? Yes that makes that toddler cardigan a value of £60. Is that really too much?

Well here’s a few more things to consider. If that cardigan is made from high quality yarns it will last for many years, so it can be handed down to siblings, or friends. Many find high quality knitwear lasts beyond any stated age. The design I use is in fact aged at 2 year increments from age 2, and the age 10+ would likely fit into the teens. I have a blog post in the writing with customer experiences of how long some items have lasted, but my own experience for now from my own children. My eldest daughter fitted many of her hand knits for 2 years, baby items for up to 12 months. My middle daughter then wore one or two of those and still fits a couple of age 5 items at the age of 7. My youngest daughter (who was a 99.9 centile born baby weighing in at 11lb+, so the size of your average 3 month old) fitted a 0-3 month cardigan I had made her before she was born until she was close to 9 months old. The £45 that is worth would be money well spent for a cardigan that lasted almost the first year of a baby’s life.

Do you think spending that little bit extra for something that lasts many years is worth it? Many people feel it isn’t. It saddens my heart when I see skilled yarn and fibre artists pricing their work for so much less than the time it takes to create. I feel it undervalues not just themselves and their skill, but the hard work that many others put into their own craft. Is a person really only worth £1/hour, and yes I have seen some items priced so low that even if the person doesn’t need the money, they are seriously undervalued. If you don’t need the money from selling goods, why not gift them to the many family charities or homeless organisations who would gladly accept them as donations, and you would feel just amazing for being so generous, probably much better than the feelinsg felt when you spend several hours creating something and receive £5, £10, or even £20 for something that took you 6 hours to create.

If you create beautiful things, take a minute to consider if you feel you and your work are worth more, if they are then charge more. If you shop for hand made products that you know take many hours to create, then consider offering to pay more for an item or shop from sellers that charge their true worth. If you don’t think a person is worth £10/hour for their time? Well maybe rethink that idea, or buy your products from shops where goods are made in sweatshops, and consider the ethical implications of knowing workers are paid £1/hour, but don’t expect a skilled craftsperson to be earning so little.

Much love and best wishes

(and make sure you charge what your worth whatever your craft)

Davina <3

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Happy Holidays 

I know it’s been a while, December is always a bit manic for me. I always have lots of orders to fulfil, not to mention enjoying the odd Secret Santa swap and of course the need to shop for and have everything ready for family fun over the holidays. Oh and to top it off I have 2 birthdays for my girls in the 2 weeks following Christmas Day. I thinks saying it’s a bit manic is, in fact, an understatement!

This year I’ve gone into more of the Winter Solstice side of the winter  holidays than the Christian side, after all most Christmas traditions come from original Solstice and Yuletide celebrations. I’ve had a lovely time teaching my girls about Elen of the Ways and reflecting on the old year while we look forward to the new. It’s been our best and happiest Christmas since having children. 

As always I’ve been involved in making some lovely gifts for people, it’s always such a privilege to be involved in people’s special celebrations. I’ll pop some photos below and leave you all with a wish for happy holidays and a fabulous new year to come. 

I have great things coming in the new year. Some are super nerve wracking, some are going to be beautifully rewarding and some will leave me extra busy. All of them are greatly exciting.
Thank you for joining me during 2017 and I will see you all again in 2018.

Much love and happiness 

Davina x

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October is here

Quite simply put, I love October, I love the cooler weather, I love wrapping up warm and I love the increasing longer nights.

Yeah, yeah I know, all that extra darkness, all that rain, all those cloudy days, but nope non of that dampens my love for autumn and winter.

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For me this month means a family holiday, our first ever since having kids, that’s 8 years overdue, right? It means lots of work, because of course more people want warm gloves and scarves and hats, although I’m going to show you over the coming months just why you want knitwear in the spring and summer too.

So how am I going to stay motivated? Well aside from my awesome holiday, (did I mention that yet?) I have been working on self-love, particularly with the fabulous Mel Wells who wrote ‘The Goddess Revolution: Food and Body Freedom for Life’. Last week she held a Self-Love Week, where I managed to bring up some very raw feelings, feelings I thought I was over. I guess I’m still a work in progress though 😉 

self-confidence-2076799__340Still I have wrote out a fabulous meal plan from Deliciously Ella, so that I can start looking after my body with fabulous food, and I have vowed to do my MuTu System core workout daily.

Self-love, the key to showing the universe that you know you are worthy of all the good it provides.

Have a fabulous week lovely people

Warm wishes and love

Davina